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Saturday, November 15, 2008

Weekend to Remember

That Man and I are at the Family Life Weekend to Remember Conference. So far, we're having a good time. It's been interesting to see the unexpected things we're learning about each other, even after 9 years of marriage. And, I have to admit, there's some things I've been learning about myself that I'll probably end up sharing in posts to come.

One thing this conference has taught me is that even if you think you know it all or have it all together, there's something you can still learn. I was amazed to see how many couples were there who'd been married 20, 30, even 40 years. I thought for sure we'd be among the old fogies and it turns out, we were the young 'uns. I love knowing that there are folks out there who've been in it for the long haul who are still committed to making their marriage better. There is still something for them, who could probably teach all of us a thing or two or three, to learn.

Mostly, though, I am just blessed by the thought of seeing so many people committed to making their marriages work. It's not an easy thing in this day and age, that's for sure. Judy, one of the speakers, made the comment that the world, especially Hollywood, gives us this example of having a few kids together, living together, and if it gets too hard, you find someone new and supposedly better. Well, that doesn't seem to be working so well for them, now does it? Where's the stability and growth in that?

Probably the biggest thing that I've learned so far (we still have sessions tomorrow) is that God created my husband for me. The things that I say, "okay, God, why him, why me," are areas that God has placed in our lives to help one or both of us grow in some way. None of us are perfect, but together, we can grow and become better. If I reject him or some aspect of him, I am rejecting something God has placed in my life for a purpose. Which is basically rejecting God. It puts things in a whole new perspective as I begin to look at things, even the negative ones, as opportunities God has placed in my life.

Mostly, though, I've just been blessed by this time alone with my husband, away from the kids, to reconnect with him. I hope each of you who are married get an opportunity to reconnect with your spouse sometime soon. For those of you who aren't, well, take the time to reconnect God and deepen that relationship.

Tomorrow we'll go home, and from there, figure out ways to keep the spark ignited and connect even better in the future. Any fun tips?


Robbie Iobst said...

Danica, I've been following you on Twitter and it sounds like a fantastic time. And deep, too. I LOVE what you wrote: "If I reject him or some aspect of him, I am rejecting something God has placed in my life for a purpose."
That's something worth thinkin' on!

kalea_kane said...

Danica, I have been just DYING to go to a Weekend to Remember conference. I am hoping my husband and I can go next year. I have heard amazing things about them. We are fairly newlyweds, but we have been advised that is just makes a great marriage even more protected.

I can't wait to read about everything you have learned. :)



Eaton Bennett aka Berenice Albrecht said...

Blessings on your alone time together. That kind of time is hard to get and to be treasured. I have been married 36 years and I can honestly say it has been an interesting ride and I am pretty sure it will continue to be. God put us together, he must have!!! :)

Jan Parrish said...

Danica, what a gift you are giving to the kids and yourselves by building a stronger and more resilient marriage. I pray you had an awesome time. I can't wait to hear more.